The Comparison Trap: How to Flip the Script and Fully Step Into Your Glow
“It's about giving yourself permission to explore, to try new things, and to redefine what joy means to you in this phase of your life.”
- Noelle Kustas
The Comparison Trap: How to Flip the Script and Fully
Step Into Your Glow
Hey, lovely ladies! Noelle here, and today we're addressing the comparison trap, a topic that affects us all. It's that sneaky feeling of inadequacy when we see someone else's success, that "why not me?" whisper that can steal our joy. If you've ever scrolled through social media and felt a twinge of social media envy, or questioned your own path, you're definitely not alone. Let's explore how to overcome comparison and reclaim our glow.
Why Do We Compare?
From a young age, society conditions us to measure ourselves against others. As midlife moms, this midlife comparison can hit especially hard. We start to question our choices and wonder if we've done enough. Social media adds fuel to the fire, showing us curated highlights that often don't reflect reality. I've been there too, feeling that uncomfortable mix of envy and shame.
My Personal Story
I remember a time when I was pouring my heart and soul into my work, yet the financial results weren't matching my efforts. Meanwhile, someone close to me was experiencing incredible success. I was genuinely happy for her, but deep down, I couldn't help but wonder, "Why not me?" This led to feelings of unworthiness and guilt. It's important to remember that comparison isn't just about wanting what someone else has; it's about what we think their success means about us.
The Thief of Joy
Comparison is a thief—it steals our joy, energy, and self-worth. It leads us to believe in a scarcity mindset, thinking that someone else’s success diminishes our own. But that’s not how life works. There’s room for everyone to shine.
How to Flip the Script
Awareness is Key: Notice when comparison creeps in. Ask yourself what you’re feeling and why. Get curious about the stories you’re telling yourself.
Flip Envy into Inspiration: Instead of asking, “Why her?” ask, “What is this showing me about what I want?” Use others’ successes as inspiration for your personal growth.
Celebrate Other Women: Cheer for others’ wins, and watch how that positive energy comes back to you.
Focus on Your Own Lane: Your journey is unique and perfectly timed. Embrace it.
Building self confidence by understanding your own value.
Find joy in life by remembering your own successes.
Combat comparison culture by focusing on your own path.
Conclusion
Breaking free from the comparison trap is about reclaiming your power and recognizing your unique worth. By shifting your perspective, celebrating others, and focusing on your own path, you can step into your glow and live a life filled with joy and fulfillment. Remember, your journey is yours alone, and it’s perfectly timed. Embrace it, celebrate it, and shine brightly. Learn how to stop comparing yourself and find your own contentment.
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XOXO,
Noelle Kustas
